Seeking Joy

I believe that joy should not be a luxury reserved as a celebration for reaching the end of your “to do” list. If your “to do” list is anything like mine, as soon as you cross things off the top, you add more to the bottom anyway. So, the end can be rather elusive!

So, I urge you to seek joy today…whatever that means to you. Because joy is nourishment.

And it is so important to nourish yourself. For when you nourish yourself you feel better and can give more. It’s quite simply better for you and everyone else around you.

So find what feels good to you…it could be speaking to a friend, singing along to your favourite songs, dancing around your kitchen, gardening, baking a cake, going for a walk or a swim. Whatever it is for you, just do it and do it often! It doesn’t have to take a lot of time but it does need to happen - for you and those around you.

Know that you deserve the joyous life that you can create.

For me, simply listening to music can really enrich my life. Music that I love moves me in ways that are deep. Songs connect me to memories and feelings so quickly that sometimes it takes me by surprise. It can be emotional.

Some songs remind me of how far I have come and how much I have changed. Some remind me of aspects of myself that I have not embraced for some time. Some allow me space to reflect and some allow me the opportunity to simply revel in exuberant song and dance!

I have to seek the right music for what I feel that I need in that moment. It’s an intuitive process. If it doesn’t feel right, on with the search until finally I find it and…ahh, it really hits the spot.

Singing and dancing along with my favourite songs in the kitchen whilst making tea or doing the dishes is such a simple act but to me…well it just feels so good.

Often the simplest things can make the biggest difference. The simple things are usually more do-able, more sustainable and can enhance your life in ways that are just beautiful.

And even in the darkest of times, light can be found if you only look for it. And in my experience, the more joyful moments I create, the more I open my eyes to the joy all around me.

So go on, choose joy!

Coming Home

In wild woman circles this month, we have been speaking of “home”. Your primary home is the body that you live in and so often, many of us can feel disconnected from this home. For a multitude of reasons, we can feel uncomfortable in our own skin or just not PRESENT in our body and not in touch with what it needs.

Living in a capitalist society that, in many ways, profits from our insecurities can take its toll. We are bombarded by notions of our bodies having “flaws” and “imperfections” that need “correcting”. All underpinned by the idea that we can “correct” an “improve” what’s on the outside to feel better on the inside.

I would advocate a different approach - tune in to how you feel on the inside. Cultivate an appreciation for the things that your body DOES for you, the things that it ENABLES you to do, day after day, week after week, year after year. Appreciate the innate wisdom of your body.

LOVE YOUR BODY TO A PLACE OF GOOD HEALTH.

Like so many things in life, it’s all about perspective. You can see what is lacking or you can celebrate the abundance. You can see exercise as a punishment for what you ate or as a celebration of what your body can do. You can view healthy food choices as deprivation or as kindness.

Like any home, our body needs maintenance. It needs to be looked after and to look after something well, you need to pay attention. To pay attention to ALL of you, to every little bit of your gorgeous vessel. This vessel that carries you through all of your adventures in this life and allows for all of the many beautiful connections that you will make.

As a self-employed Mum to two beautiful girls, I can attest to the fact that life can get busy and sometimes “time to tune in” can seem elusive. But this time is so necessary for your own well-being. Your body is wise. If you only listen, you will usually know what you need or if you need to ask for help.

Many moons ago, I lost myself for a while. I felt disconnected from my body and disconnected from who I am. I didn’t “tune in”. My body screamed on every level. Physically and mentally I was exhausted and emotionally…well, I just wanted to cry all the time.

I have been there and I chose to start listening. I chose to ask for help. I chose to make time for myself and to look after my body and I chose to forgive myself.

Forgiveness was a turning point for me. I stopped being so hard on myself and chose to forgive myself for not doing the things that I knew were good me. I chose to continue to forgive myself every time things slipped a little and I wasn’t looking after myself as well as I could be. And I still make that choice every single day.

Because I do not need to be chastised or to feel guilty. What I need is kindness, I need to listen to my innate inner wisdom and be nudged lovingly back to a good place.

So this is what I do…I don’t deprive myself, I love myself. I don’t chastise myself, I show kindness and tolerance and celebrate all that I am. And if I forget to do this sometimes…well, I forgive myself for that too and get myself back to a good place in the best way I can.

So, I urge you to get quiet and listen regularly. Just a few minutes of quiet time to close your eyes, tune in and ask yourself “what do I need right now?” can make the world of difference. And don’t stop at listening - make it happen. And if making it happen means asking for help - then ask. I know that it’s not always easy to ask for help but it’s worth it because we all need our body to be a home where we can feel comfortable and beautiful.

So go on…forgive, be kind, celebrate and appreciate all that you are. Love yourself to good health on every level.

Stepping Out Into Yourself

Today, I speak to you of community.

I set an intention at our last Wild Woman Circle to make myself more visible in my community. To put myself out there - and to do so with an open, honest and generous heart.

Achieving balance in life can be tricky and, in recent times, I have felt the imbalance in my own life acutely. 

I have been spending a great deal of time on my own and for me, too much time on my own affects me deeply. I am a sociable person and when I don’t have enough positive interactions with gorgeous human beings like yourself, my sparkle is somewhat dulled.

So, I have been following up on my intention! Putting myself out there in my local community; literally making myself physically visible, walking around the village, engaging in conversation, passing the time of day, chatting to other parents and friends on the school run and generally connecting with other lovely people. And guess what? It seems that others in my community are longing for human connection too! And so we have nourished each other.

And it’s not all about the humans either…we share space with so many other living things. And so, I have been getting out into my natural surroundings more too and taking my children along with me. There is something so beautiful and grounding about familiarising yourself with your community in the natural world throughout the year. Feeling into where you are in the year by what is in bloom and what has transformed, by who is visiting and who has left, by who you can hear and who you cannot. A more natural way of telling the time. 

And truly putting yourself out there in your community requires bravery and honesty. There is vulnerability in visibility. 

But, in my experience, it is totally worth it. I feel that I am regaining my sparkle and the braver I am, the braver I become. And I want to stay on that road.

Being brave, seen and heard can lift you up and help you shine. And perhaps your bravery may help others sparkle too.

So go on! Let’s shine together beautiful people!!